Torn between Soul and security?
Perhaps…. you feel torn between two seemingly dreadful realities:
Either…. ‘I follow the path I know I belong to, that has heart, adventure and purpose, but I might fail, humiliate, isolate myself and end up destitute.’
Or…. ‘I stay secure and comfortable where I am and conform to other people’s expectations of me, but it’s empty, soul crushing and I’ll die unfulfilled.’
I know how frustrating and confusing a place this can be.
Unfortunately, this is all too prevalent given the modern society we live in.
We are currently living in a story of separation; separation from our hearts, our souls, our gifts, the land, our communities and the present moment itself.
So frightened of the unknown we remain lost.
So averse to discomfort we remain comfortably numb.
So obsessed with security we feel insecure.
Given this context, if you are feeling lost, you are not alone.
I’m Hamish,
I am a coach, facilitator and nature guide with twelve years experience in the field of human development.
I’ve spent much of my adulthood living in the shadow of myself - pursuing what I felt I was supposed to want, rather than what I actually wanted. This led to a good deal of anxiety, confusion and resentment.
Today, I’m learning to move slow enough to experience the wisdom and gift of my moment to moment experience - whatever it holds.
I coach people who are on someone else’s path, to begin to claim their own path.
I’ve discovered it is how we relate to the wholeness of our often messy selves that determines the quality of our life and the direction we choose to take.
Find more on my story here
“If the path before you is clear, you’re probably on someone else’s.”
I wonder if….
There is a business or non-profit you’ve always wanted to start….but you never have?
When you were a kid you wanted to be a writer, but your parents and/or teachers laughed at you and so you buried it?
You’ve dreamed of becoming a therapist, but you doubt yourself and you are eternally procrastinating….?
One of the hardest things for us to do is trust ourselves and permit ourselves the life we want. Sometimes it takes a big life event, such as a breakup, a breakdown, a redundancy or a massive loss of trust to help us realise we can’t go on pretending any longer.
This is what I see happening…
We follow someone else’s path - a parent’s, a partner’s or maybe just society’s path, and it gives us a false sense of belonging and leads us to resentment.
We feel the people around us at work, in our friendship group or in our families, can't see us for who we are and we don't feel safe enough to show them.
We think our emotions, feelings and thoughts are ‘getting in the way’ of us. Whereas actually we are getting in the way of them.
We have stopped experimenting and trying new things, because we think we always have to get it ‘right’.
There is good in our life and in ourselves that we aren’t acknowledging, because we are too focused on what ‘isn’t right’; too busy distracting ourselves by ‘doing things’.
We have lost our connection with the natural world; forgotten who we really are.
Whose life are you living? And is it your own?
You may have got to the point where you are now thinking about this every single day…. and that you’d rather fail at your own life than succeed at someone else’s…
If any of this rings true for you…
I think the reason you haven’t found the courage and clarity to live the life you dearly want lies both in
….the generational, cultural and societal conditioning you live in
…and also, where you are on these five pathways: awakening, belonging, relating, adulting and meaning.
Doing the project, attending the course, changing the career, or starting that business, may bring significant benefit to you and those around you, AND….
to live an authentic and fulfilled life, in the long term, requires more than a change in what we do, it requires us to follow these pathways. They support us in being true to ourselves across all aspects of our lives, not only in our career. They also lead us to our true calling.
Click through to My Philosophy page to learn more.
A little bit more on what I’ve come to understand…
Our path is not something to ‘find’, but rather something to ‘be’.
If we are so busy thinking we ‘should’ be somewhere else or someone else, we never get to be ourselves or get to where we want to go.
So, we find our path by being our path. We cannot lose it; it is already who we are and where we are.
Further still, if we allow ourselves to be guided by what we love and what gives us energy and brings us joy,
we can listen to our life telling us who we are, rather than telling our life what we want to do with it.
You may think that your path is a job title, but the work that we would do together will help you experience your path as something much more profound than that and utterly unique to you.
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“I had the most incredible experience and treasured the gift of spending time with Hamish. His passion for nature; along with his gentle wisdom and deep experience of journeying into wilderness was very inspiring to me. I had not realised that Mother Nature was such a strong healer, teacher and holder.”
“Hamish is one of the rare coaches who is driven deeply by a voracious desire to learn, expand, and know himself and others better.... He models a beautiful style of leadership that is honest, authentic, and vulnerable, and it’s unbelievably refreshing to witness and experience.”
“Working with Hamish feels like throwing open the windows and letting lots of fresh air and light in! He works his magic through connection and humanity and a quiet wisdom born of a real interconnectedness with the natural world and an eye on the distant horizon. It’s transformative!”